“When I was little, I would wake up at night terrified by the idea of death. My father would comfort me with soft pats and kisses. But he would never lie.“We all die, Susie,” he would say.“It’s normal to be scared.”He didn’t try to invent a buffer between me and reality. It took me a while to understand the power of how he guided me through those nights. What he showed me is that courage is not an absence of fear; courage is fear walking.”
“Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not anti-happiness. I like being happy. I’m a pretty happy person. But when we push aside normal emotions to embrace false positivity, we lose our capacity to develop skills to deal with the world as it is, not as we wish it to be. I’ve had hundreds of people tell me what they don’t want to feel. They say things like, “I don’t want to try because I don’t want to feel disappointed. “Or, “I just want this feeling to go away.”
Above are excerpts from a TED talk, The gift and power of emotional courage, that might change your life. A very inspiring talk by psychologist Susan David, creator of the concept of Emotional Agility, about how important it is to accept and LIVE all your emotions, including the “negative” ones like sadness, pain, anger or grief, because accepting and embracing our emotions is essential to developing “resilience, thriving, and true, authentic happiness”.